|But me by any other name isn't quite me.|
I had to go back to the Courthouse today, to re-apply for my updated Passport. It's a long, complicated, and bureaucratic story that I won't bore you with. But the heart of it is: I was married before, took my husband's name, then got divorced - in 1983 - and resumed my birth name. That's the name I've used since, and everyone knows me this way.
When my husband Sandy, who's conveniently had the same name since birth, went to re-up his Passport it was the usual pile of paperwork, but no hassles. He applied, he received it two weeks later (thanks for good service, U.S. Passport Office!).
And mine will get sorted out too, but this experience has reinforced my happiness in keeping my own name when I married Sandy. He kept his own name too. He asked me why I didn't want to change it and I told him "It's my family's name." That was cool with him. It's really my late father's name, as my mother changed hers to his when they married in 1954. Not many other options seemed available to women then.
|I am keeping the name I was born with. Yes, yes, the angels descended when I was born! Ha! Source.|
Now I celebrate that women (and men) have choices. It's common in my profession for married women to use their birth names. It's more common everywhere for women to feel supported in this decision. And I do know a couple in which the husband changed his name to hers. He said he got a lot of grief at the Social Security office, and that's not fair.
I am as married as any woman out there - with twenty-one years of joyful togetherness, and many decades ahead. And I love having my own name. It feels good. My in-laws don't like it, and still address me as Mrs. Husband's-last-name. They aren't going to change!
|This isn't my in-laws, but it's very similar to their wedding pics from 1947. They're a delightful couple.|
Do you have any feelings about this issue? No wrong answers, I'd just love to hear your views. No names required. ☺
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