Tuesday, February 28, 2012

Body Image Warrier Week: Fit and Feminist


I'm honored today to participate in Body Image Warrior Week. This idea was born in Sally McGraw's (Already Pretty blog) brain, to coincide with National Eating Disorder Awareness Week. The participants are bloggers who are passionate about uplifting women's views of our physical selves.

We are spreading the good word about loving our bodies, by featuring works by other "warriors" (Sally is inviting many more women to participate, just go here and join in, please!). I chose the following glorious essay by Caitlin Constantine, of the blog Fit and Feminist.

Caitlin is a writer, editor, zinester, blogger and athlete based out of Clearwater, Fla.  She writes with the goal of pushing back against a culture that defines femininity as weakness and that seeks to deny women their physical power.  Her writing has appeared in Bitch and Creative Loafing.

The Danger of A Single Ideal Body

Recently, I came across a blog post by a personal trainer in which she explored the one of my least favorite terms as applied to women’s bodies – the word “bulky.”  Any weight-training woman is familiar with this term, as it is often the first thing other women will say as their reason for refusing to lift weights.  The idea is that lifting weights will lead to the development of big muscles, and the development of big muscles means a woman will no longer be beautiful and will instead be manly, unattractive, scary and doomed to a sex-free, love-free life.

The comments on the blog post illustrated this line of thought clearly, as woman after woman expressed dismay that she had taken up heavy lifting and was horrified to see that her body had developed muscles.   Some even clearly articulated their belief that in doing so, they had crossed a very bright line in which women were meant to be weaker and protected by the men they loved. 

The women had set out in pursuit of the slender, compact body most often displayed by female celebrities, and instead they found themselves becoming muscular.  It didn’t matter that they were also stronger and that they were most likely healthier, with tougher bones and a stronger heart.  What mattered was that they were bigger.

As I read through those comments, I reflected on a TED talk given by writer Chimamanda Adichie in which she spoke about the “danger of the single story.”  She described growing up in Nigeria and yet writing stories in which her blonde-haired, blue-eyed characters ate apples and played in snow.  Every book she had read was written by British authors about British life, and as a result she hadn’t realized it was possible to write books about her own life.  She thought the only way to be worthy of literature was to be a foreigner.

I thought about her words and I realized that we as a culture had accepted the single story of the “ideal body” so thoroughly that no room remained for alternate definitions of female beauty.  Take the comments on the aforementioned blog post.  The “ideal female body” – a slim figure with breasts that aren’t too big and thighs that don’t touch and a butt that isn’t too flat and nothing that jiggles too much – is desired with such single-mindedness that the non-cosmetic benefits of weight training are dismissed without a second thought.

I use the example of women and muscles because that is what I, as an athletic woman who lifts weights, am most familiar with.  However, the story of the single ideal body manifests itself in breast augmentation and pumping parties, in gimmicky diets and weight-loss gadgets bought on installment plans, in firming creams and treatments meant to zap cellulite into non-existence.  Fortunes are spent and made in pursuit of the “ideal body,” and yet the only thing that has happened is that the ideal has become even more unattainable than ever before.

It’s not hard to see how this happened, either.  Look at our culture, at the bodies represented on television and in magazines and in movies and in advertising.  Just as Adichie only thought she could write stories about white children in snowy climates, we as a culture have trouble envisioning a standard of beauty that is not tall, thin, able-bodied and European.  Even when we do embrace someone who does not fit that standard, we tend to be very self-congratulatory about it, thus undoing whatever progress was gained by reducing that person into little more than a symbol of our open-mindedness.

I don’t know about you, but I am tired of a world in which the only people who are considered beautiful have a specific body type, a specific kind of hair, a specific tone of skin, a specific shape of face.  I find such a world inhumane and cruel, bordering on insane.  Plus, as an aesthete who revels in beauty and sensation, I also find it dreadfully boring.

Consider the natural world, with all of its abundance of living things.  Think about flowers. In my neighborhood in Florida, I can count the following: birds of paradise, hydrangea, plumeria, magnolia, jacaranda, orchids, Confederate jasmine, black-eyed Susans, coreopsis, spider lilies and dozens more whose names I don’t know.   

Few of us would look at all of these flowers and say that, for instance, orchids are the only beautiful ones.  Sure, we might have a preference, but most of us would not take our preferences to mean that all other flowers are ugly, and that we ought to rip rosebushes and tulip bulbs out of the ground so they can be replaced with even more orchids.

Yet this is what we do with our bodies – we say that all bodies that do not fit that single ideal are ugly, and that all bodies must fit that single ideal to be worthy of respect and care and affection.   We say that if you cannot force yourself to fit that ideal, then you must hide yourself behind shapeless clothing and maybe even consider never leaving your house because you are too revolting to be seen.

How is it that we can so easily recognize beauty in all of its millions of manifestations in plants and animals, yet our definitions narrow radically when it comes to human beings?   Why do we value diversity in all things but scorn it in ourselves?

It’s clear to me that the expectation that our bodies must be a certain way to be feminine and beautiful is an artificial one, one that is informed almost entirely by the culture in which we are raised.  The bad news is that it is a powerful expectation, filled with privileges for those who conform and punishment for those who do not.

The good news is that we can resist it.  We can resist by refusing to hate our bodies for the way they look.  We can resist by catching ourselves when we think harshly about other people’s appearances.  We can resist by refusing to judge other people based on their bodies.  We can resist by calling out those who make those kinds of moral judgments about other people.  We can resist by refusing to support media outlets who uphold such narrow beauty standards. 

We need a radical redefinition of what it means to be beautiful in this society.  We need to pry open the definition so it includes all bodies, whether they are tall or short or average or slender or fat or muscular or disabled.  Enough with this idea that beauty must somehow be exclusionary, like it is this finite quality that loses its potency as more people gain access to it. Such a view of beauty is blind to the core, irreducible truth about us, which is that our existence is nothing short of a miracle.

We do not blight the world with our cellulite, nor do we somehow diminish it through our sagging flesh.  The natural order is not upended by our muscles, nor does the universe gasp in horror when it sees our bellies.  We are just as much a part of the brilliant multiplicity of the universe as the flowers and the birds and the stars in the sky.  We are beautiful because we exist.  We are beautiful because we are.

-Caitlin Constantine

Please check out these other blogs, to read more terrific essays about positive body-talk.  Participants in Body Image Warrior Week are:


    Sunday, February 26, 2012

    Visible Monday #35: Leather Mini Skirt?!

    Welcome to Visible Monday #35! If you want to participate, it's so easy: just go to the bottom of this post for the simple how-to.

    Blogging has now taken me over the final frontiers: I wore a leather miniskirt. OK, not to the office, but on a date with my husband. This cool skirt was purchased from Serene's (The Elegant Bohemian) eBay store. It feels wonderful, and as Serene pointed out, never needs ironing! It has a flattering, modified pencil shape. I know I'd wear it more if it were two inches longer. Suggestions?

    I added a flowy top, tights and booties. I stayed all-neutral, although I could have added a colorful bangle or gone with a bright shoe. Next time.


    Skirt: The Elegant Bohemian; Blouse: no label!; Shoes: Tsubo


    The pointing cat foot says Yes! Wear a Leather Mini Skirt!


    Now, I can't wait to see what you are wearing today!


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    1. Any Monday, whoever wants to can join in! Just compose a post that includes any outfit, accessory, piece of jewelry, hairstyle, cosmetic or other adornment that makes you feel more confident, alive and visible that day.
    2. Include a link to Not Dead Yet Style somewhere in your post.
    3. Go to the bottom of this post and click on this cute little link:


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    Saturday, February 25, 2012

    Don't Do What I Did Today

    Image via Jezebel (good article too)

    It's a leisurely Saturday morning. I am sipping delicious 7-Eleven coffee and reading the NY Times online. My husband says, let's take a quick look at the Estate Sale up the street. It's at a charming little cottage that's on the market for about the same price as ours, so we've wanted to see the home, too.

    Who's going to see me? I toss a long gray sweatshirt skirt over my gym shorts. I squish a knit hat over my morning-hair, and throw on an oversize jean jacket. White gym socks and workout sneakers complete the look.

    The cottage is charming, well worth viewing. We decide to pop into the Post Office to pick up a package. Not only is the handsome clerk on duty today, but an attractive 40-something woman comes in behind me. She's wearing a denim skirt and embroidered denim jacket, a couple of colorful necklaces, open sandals, and great red lipstick. I die.

    Well, not really die. I start a conversation with her about how terrific she looks, and she says she dresses up every day, "just because". We chat about what a great idea that is, and she very kindly compliments my hat. I invite her to check out this blog, because she is most definitely a fabulous over-40 woman.

    Lesson for me: take an extra five minutes to put on jeans, proper shoes, a splash of lipstick and a jacket from this decade when going about the neighborhood! Do it for the children!



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    Thursday, February 23, 2012

    What I Wore: Shades of Gray and a Sunny Feeling

    Happy Thursday! I felt very black-and-white-and-gray today. Soothing and neutral for whatever the day brings. Muted colors and neutrals do suit my pale coloration and low-contrast hair and skin. So I am always comfortable in pieces like these.

    The dress is  a thrifted find, a slinky wrap, vintage probably 80's. I tucked the collar inside, because I don't care for big lapels. I topped it with a gray cropped jacket by BCBG MaxAzria that I've had for years, and added thrifted black boots.

    Before I became a little more style-conscious, I would have left off the jacket  and worn plain black pumps. My adventurous-ness has increased, and with it, my joy in dressing -- even in all-neutrals!









    Are you having more fun with your wardrobe since you started reading and/or writing fashion blogs?

    Wednesday, February 22, 2012

    The Rules, I Breaks Them

    Apologies for the LOL-cat talk, but I still find those cats irresistible.

    I like to follow many rules; they make life flow smoothly and reduce chaos, e.g.: drive on the right side of the road, show up for work on time, and never touch the Queen.




    But there are rules (guidelines at least) that show up in nearly every list of fashion tips for Women of  a Certain Age. Many of them are terrific, and others I just can't help breaking, with gusto. Please note, I'm only speaking for myself, not judging these rules per se. Here are some of my fashion acts of everyday rebellion:

    • Get a professional bra fitting and invest in great bras. Nope, tried it, and I don't need to. I enjoy wearing camis with built-in bras, or stretchy little bras from GAP. I wear sturdy fitness bras for my workouts, but I can't wait to take them off when I'm done.
    • Along the same lines: don't wear those Grandma panties, try some sleek thongs. Arggghh. While not grandma-style, my personal garments are, well, normal-sized and they don't have an agenda to invade my body parts.
    • Own a crisp white shirt. I have tried this too. I have not yet (at 56!) found a truly comfortable, flattering, easy-care white shirt. They're just not for me. Give me a nice, heavyweight white cotton or silk tee, with an open neckline.
    It's classic and lovely, but not for me. Nordstroms.

    • Here comes some heresy: Own a trench. Again, I have tried. I have a very nice one hanging in my coat closet right now, classic tan. But I have never worn it. It's just not me -- too much fabric, perhaps, or "too classic" for my personal style. 
    I'd wear a denim jacket instead, for casual. Nordstroms, on sale.


    Or a flowy open jacket, for office/dressy occasions. Also Nordy's and on sale.

    • Shapewear is a must. OK, here I know I am probably too rebellious. I recognize the nice smooth lines created by Spanx, et al. I just feel horrible all pressed in like that, and I reach for a looser fitting piece of clothing. I may change my mind about this, but for now, I feel freeeee.  

    I'd love to hear from you! Are you an habitual rule-breaker? Do you feel a little rebellious when you wear white after Labor Day? No wrong answers, of course, we all want to be comfortable in our own skin.

    Sunday, February 19, 2012

    Visible Monday #34: The Scoop on eShakti, and Savings for You!

    Welcome to Visible Monday #34! If you want to participate, it's so easy: just go to the bottom of this post for the simple how-to.

    I was approached by eShakti to review one of their items, and I chose this pretty  Embellished Florals Flared skirt. They sent it to me at no cost and asked for my opinions. These are my opinions, even though the skirt was a gift.

    This online store offers to customize clothing for you for a minimal charge of $7! I did not take advantage of that service, as I'm a fairly standard size, and this skirt is only fitted at the waist. But I may order some "custom" fits in the future.

    The skirt was a little wrinkled out of the bag, but I just spritzed it with water and tossed it in the dryer for a few minutes. It came out beautifully. The fit is great, and the length is just right for me. I like the high waist and the belt loops. My only personal regret is that I feel a little limited in how to style it; I am not sure what other tops would complement the blue and violet flowers. I'm open to suggestions!

    I find the quality good for the price, and the skirt is washable, so I am a happy reviewer. If you'd like to try one of eShakti's pieces, either ready-to-wear or customized, they are offering  a $20 gift certificate off any purchase, to new buyers. You just have to register, and be a US resident (sorry, non-US-ers).

    Tee: Old Navy, Shoes: Naturalizer. The shoes bore me though, and I
    plan to re-donate them. Blue suede booties would've rocked this outfit  : >


    What other tops could one wear with this skirt?


    Here are some of my picks for using the $20 discount:

    Gold Buttoned Pencil Skirt, $44.95 before Gift Certificate. I love the
    simple shape and the fitted waist.

    Straw Ring Tote, $49.95 before Gift Certificate. This would add some
    zest to my summer looks.

    Swanning Around Blouse, $49.95 before Gift Certificate. Check out
    this blouse on the model at the eShakti site - it's so feminine.


    Now, I can't wait to see what you are wearing today!


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    Saturday, February 18, 2012

    Shopping For the Here and Now

    Do you ever shop for the "near future?" You know, for when I "lose a little", or "firm up"? I prefer not to buy clothing this way.

    Some fashion experts advise keeping a coveted item in a different size, hanging in a prominent place in your closet. This is a motivator, they say, to meet your body-change goals. Perhaps this does work, as a real-life visualization of where you'd like to be.

    I don't like to buy or own clothing that might fit some future me. I like to shop in the here and now, and take home something I can't wait to put on! In fact, that's one of my favorite guidelines for buying an item: "Do I want to wear it right way?" If yes, it's probably going in the basket. If it's too tight, I don't really want it in my closet.

    But I am always curious about other women's motivators: do you shop for now, or for a little bit later?



    Image via Deviant Art





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    Thursday, February 16, 2012

    What I Wore: Casual and Stripe-y

    This was not a look for the office. It's an experiment at jeans-substitution for a day out and about in our small city. During our mild winter, we have a lot of leeway for non-jeans casual wear!

    I do love a stripe, and this long sleeve tee combines two of my favorite colors. And I like a slim-fitting top when I wear a full skirt. This one's from Tommy Hilfiger, thrifted for just a few dollars at the Daily Bread Thrift Store. I really appreciate what they do for our community, feeding the hungry and providing shelter for the homeless when they can.

    I added my leggings for the cooler temps, but I decided to forgo boots/booties for one day. I went with my Ralph Lauren sparkly flats, and felt pretty darn good. I do wonder if the look is a wee bit too young for me, but I did not get arrested, or worse! stared at by the upstanding matrons of our town.


    The tee is from Old Navy, and the belt is from GAP




    Do you also get the urge to wear non-jeans on your casual days? Would a cotton skirt and leggings fit the bill for you?

    Tuesday, February 14, 2012

    How To Upgrade Your Wardrobe, If You Feel Like It

    I do go through phases with my wardrobe -- do you? I feel like I am just now coming to the end of a phase. This phase could be characterized by: let's buy a lot of inexpensive (i.e., thrifted and consigned) items, have fun playing with them, then recycle them to the thrifts.

    There's nothing bad about this approach. It has been a lot of fun, especially in my trip to NYC for which I packed very little and "lived" in items I acquired there in the amazing thrift stores. I have managed to keep my closets from getting too full, by using my one-in, one-out policy fairly strictly.

    I don't know what's moved me, but I feel now like changing to a higher quality, lower-volume wardrobe. I am re-reading some of my favorite style books and blog articles on the topics of the well-curated wardrobe, the pared-down wardrobe, and the quality-over-quantity debate.

    Here are some of the ideas sloshing around in my head, about how to upgrade and slim down my current closet. I reserve the right to change my mind! but I am having fun with this paradigm right now. Some changes I'd like to make are:


    • Better shoes and bags - it's OK to thrift and consignment-shop these items, but I want very good quality and some personality in my shoes and bags.
    These Faryl Robin shoes would add quality and personality!

    • Better accessories – watch, bracelet, earrings. I do want one very nice watch, a steel one for everyday that makes me smile when I look at it. One terrific cuff and a pair of  artisan earrings will fill this bill.
    I like this watch, for example, by Citizens.

    • Tops in better knits and silk blends, in black, navy, ivory, and gray. I have bought lots of "cheapie" tops and they have disappointed me after a couple of washings. Time for upgrades!
    A cashmere tee is luxurious and long-lasting.

    • Jeans that fit perfectly. This won't be too hard, because I'm lucky to have a fairly standard-size lower body. But I often have "cheaped out" and purchased just-good-enough jeans. I really do want a great fitting pair that will upgrade my casual looks.

    I am not judging myself, or any other woman who enjoys an inexpensive, eclectic closet. It's just clothing, and should be fun, fulfilling and flattering. I am letting my pendulum swing, and enjoying the process. Have you made this journey? Are you in the midst of a pendulum swing right now?




    Sunday, February 12, 2012

    Visible Monday #33: In Which The Brights Overwhelm Me!

    Welcome to Visible Monday #33! If you want to participate, it's so easy: just go to the bottom of this post for the simple how-to.

    In the spirit of Visibility, I reached for a very vibrant blouse today. I like a lot of things about it: the subtle ruffles at the neck (hard to see here), tiny puff at the shoulder and cuff, and easy drape. I believe the colors are too vibrant for my very fair, low contrast coloring though. I applied my usual amount of makeup, and I look a little washed-out here. I want to add some blush and lipstick, and that's a sign that the colors I'm wearing next to my face are not ideal.

    I do adore this Old Navy skirt, thrifted a couple of years ago, and down to about 25 cents per wear. I noticed that one of Sandy's ties made a lovely almost-fit with the blouse, and he was kind enough to tie it man-style around my waist (that was fun!). Tights and trusty Sofft booties completed the look.



    Blouse and skirt: thrifted; Husband's tie as belt; Sofft booties: thrifted


    I still have not learned this knot - have you?


    I can't wait to see what you are wearing today!



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    1. Any Monday, whoever wants to can join in! Just compose a post that includes any outfit, accessory, piece of jewelry, hairstyle, cosmetic or other adornment that makes you feel more confident, alive and visible that day.
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    Saturday, February 11, 2012

    Photo-A-Day: A Self-Portrait, Makes You Happy

    I decided to combine two Photos-A-Day today: A Self-Portrait, and Makes You Happy. This is my beloved Dad and me, on my wedding day in 2001. He died just two years later, but I think about him every day, and still miss him. Thanks for everything, Dad.






    Oh, and one more photo that Makes Me Happy -- Stuff on my cat, Skinny G. She sleeps the sleep of the innocent:







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    Thursday, February 9, 2012

    What I Wore: Loving a Full Skirt, and Photo-A-Day

    It's no secret: I favor full, swingy skirts. Make it an olive green, all-silk full skirt and I might be in love. This skirt was snagged from Ann Taylor on clearance, for just $30. It's actually pretty neutral, and I can wear it with a great variety of tops, winter and summer.

    The Style and Co. paisley top is thrifted and it blends nicely with lots of other pieces too. I added a two-tone leather belt by Diesel, a thrifted bangle, and some Clark's booties for a simple casual office look.










    Our February Photo-A-Day word today is "front door". This is the front door of the house I lived in the first eleven years of my life. I have such fond memories of growing up here, with my mother, grandmother and grandfather. My sweet husband sought this house out on a business trip in 2000, and took this picture to surprise me:


    I thought it was so big when I was ten!

    Tuesday, February 7, 2012

    A Fabulous Meet-Up With Paula of Fashion Over Fifty!

    What a terrific way to spend a Tuesday: I had the privilege of meeting Paula, creator of the blog Fashion Over Fifty. We met for lunch and did a little shopping, and fashion commentary.

    Paula is completely delightful: funny, authentic, super-smart and creative (she has a degree in Fine Arts). We chatted about everything women over 50 might have in common, and then some. We decided that although we take our work seriously, we aren't taking ourselves too terribly seriously, and that laughter is a great coping skill. Then we shared a brownie sundae.

    As we browsed through the racks of clothing at Dillards, it was fun to observe our different personal styles at work. Paula loves "neon brights" and gravitates to color, color, color. She's an artist and has a great eye for combining colors and patterns. I was drawn to more muted pieces, but there were several items we both reached for, like a gorgeous feminine blouse:


    This one's similar - I couldn't find the exact blouse online.

    And a black chiffon-y skirt:


    Again, this one's similar, but not identical.


    We both also loved these Jessica Simpson shoes, but moaned about the foot-pain that would follow:



    And here we are, after lunch, dessert, and one adult beverage each:



    I can't wait to meet up with Paula again, she is a treat. This is the best part about blogging - forming relationships that I'd never otherwise have the opportunity to enjoy.

    I have fallen behind in my Photo-A-Day project, but here is today's entry, "a button":

    I had, and wore, one just like this, circa 1975. We are still three states short!

    Sunday, February 5, 2012

    Visible Monday #32: A Signature Look

    Welcome to Visible Monday #32! If you want to participate, it's so easy: just go to the bottom of this post for the simple how-to.

    This is a "signature" look for me, I think: neutrals, medium size prints and accessories, shoes with some personality, and total comfort. There's nothing too tight, stiff or stuffy. I'm covered, but my feminine form is still visible. I think a twenty-something or sixty-something can wear these pieces, or a version of them, so I feel like neither mutton nor lamb!  : >

    The sweater is from Banana Republic, the skirt is thrifted, originally from H and M, and the booties are by Tsubo. The necklace has a little story: I bought it at an antique store for $24. Good price, right? Well, it was actually $14, but I broke a lamp ($10) while reaching for the necklace, so the price went up. Still, a good value.



    These Tsubo booties are becoming favorites. They have lime green lining.







    I can't wait to see what you are wearing today!


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    1. Any Monday, whoever wants to can join in! Just compose a post that includes any outfit, accessory, piece of jewelry, hairstyle, cosmetic or other adornment that makes you feel more confident, alive and visible that day.
    2. Include a link to Not Dead Yet Style somewhere in your post.
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    Saturday, February 4, 2012

    My First Blog Stalker! And Photo-A-Day

    Maybe you more seasoned bloggers have gotten lots of stalker emails as a result of your blog posts. I just got my first! Mr. Creepy wrote (among other things) about his desire to see more photos of feet, stockings and "silettos" (sic) (sick).

    It's a big world out there, and our posts do go far and wide. We can't control who will read and respond to our writings/photos. I doubt Mr. Feets will bother me again. But have you ever been troubled by a persistent stalker? How did you handle it?

    Ironically, today's Photo-A-Day (via FatMumSlim) is "A Stranger".  I don't usually categorize people that way, as it has a vaguely suspicious tone, perhaps more suited to the Big City than to our smallish one. But here is a photo that evokes Stranger-ness for me. The actor, Michael C. Hall, is handsome and friendly-looking. But the character, Dexter Morgan, is the ultimate Stranger: he has a very deep, disturbing Secret, and by he time you uncover it, it's too late!


    Oh, yes, he is A Stranger! Image via BigDuck








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    Friday, February 3, 2012

    Photo-A-Day: Hands

    Fab blogger Chantelle at FatMumSlim is sponsoring the February Photo-a-Day Challenge. Just go here to read the super-simple guidelines, then start posting and sharing.





    Today's theme is Hands. Here's my pick for a very fine use of a human finger, combined with kitty hands.
    (The rules didn't say "human hands"  : > )


    Image via Catster

    Happy Friday to all.